WE WERE ON A BREAK!!!!!!

Time is one thing that all of us wish we could hold. But we can't. We try and try to manipulate it. We set alarms to the time we want to wake up. We ignore them if we want. We set dates and hold celebrations around it. We try to attend things on time. But what is time? To some people if we can't hold nor manipulate it to our fullest control, is there really a concept named time? You can sit in one place and say that you're not going to move. But the outside world moves. We can only manipulate to a certain degree of time. You can say you were early for your job, but your boss can say that you were late.
The same thing applies when watching tv. When we watch tv, it's at a certain time. We can set the tv to record a show at a certain time. The whole idea of time and how people use tome reminds me of an episode of FRIENDS. In that episode the "IT" couple Rachel and Ross decided to take a break, well Rachel said they should take a break. Ross believing that it's over between them *spoiler alert* sleeps with another woman. Rachel finds out and she is heartbroken. The episode is one of the episodes that has me looking a different way. And what I mean is, when someone states that there should be a break in a relationship, it's stating you want to take a break in the time you're spending together while in the relationship. But what the character Rachel (played by the lovely Jennifer Aniston <3) doesn't realize is... time waits for no one. And you can't just go around and asking for a break and then do as you please and then decide to get back with that person.
Granted both were in the wrong but it sticks me that Rachel would think that time would wait for her. Once you take a break, you can never go back to the dynamic before. So when your professor asks why you didn't do your homework over the break, just tell them....

Learning about ASL and how it’s different from British Sign Language is one thing that I didn’t know. I thought that Sign Language was universal which is why it’s used all over the world. But it’s different versions of sign language. Whenever we watch a movie, there are signs that are conveyed nonverbally. For instance the movie Get Out, the message that is conveyed are in the racial undertones. There’s the main character who is seen as comfortable amongst his girlfriend and her family and friends. Then the best friend of the main character that was conveyed was uneasy. But to the audience it was seen as funny. As the movie continues the overall nonverbal tone is uneasy. The main character is uneasy and the audience is now uneasy. There’s something boiling and it’s starting to come to the surface. The ending is one of my favorite psychological thriller movie endings. Some people don’t see this movie as a thriller because of the nonverbal communication. It’s not communicated to them due in part to the basis of being relatable. A percentage of the audience didn’t find the main character POV relatable, but many did. The more you watch the movie, the more you start to pick up on the nonverbal communication. The more you see the racial undertones. It’s like the movie Scream. You watch Scream once and it’s creepy. You watch it again, you ask yourself how come you couldn’t see that these characters were the killers. You watch it again and you see the characters do something different and now everyone is a suspect. You watch it again and you start to have theories on everything in the movie, even to what the characters are wearing. You can pick up on a lot of nonverbal communication but figuring out what they actually mean is up for debate. Can we ever get the true meaning of things without having to verbally communicate the message. I find that once the message is verbally conveyed it takes away all of the other possibilities.

Left on read like the color of a stop sign

This week, we learned about the difference between verbal and nonverbal communication. Watching the video about Christine Kim and she used music and sounds, I really liked that. We can get so hung up on what we are saying but we forget that it’s also what were are not saying. You can say a lot by not saying a lot. To speak to someone is a choice, to not speak to someone is also a choice. Can you imagine if we decided to speak to every person we ever came in contact with? That would be exhausting for us. But at the same time you’re questioning well why don’t I want to say anything? Then the wheels start turning in your head and you think, hmmm let me say something, then you do and you completely regret it and you just want to curl up in your bed and watch tv. We’ve all been there, but we’ve also made amazing friendships and bonds with people because we decided to step out and say hello. Well not like Adele’s hello because that’s a different story for a different blog post.

With technology now, and the way that it’s continuing, it’s going to be even more difficult to decipher between verbal and non verbal. Someone once told me that the amount of technology and social media that we have just shows us the hurtful truth which is, people now have more ways of ignoring you. Before it was the silent treatment and now it’s, you’re left on read. Growing up, when you called someone and you didn’t get them, you’d call back later, or if they had an answering machine, you’d leave a message. Or like me who had a flip phone (sigh) for your answering machine message, you’d act like it was you who picked up the phone. Mine was “hello.... hello.... yeah... well I’m not here right now, but if you leave your name and number, I’ll get back to you.” It was funny. But now if someone doesn’t rely to you right away, it’s as if the world is ending, in your case, YOUR world is ending. But it isn’t. We’re so caught up on not being left on read that we forget to even call someone and see if they’re even alive!! Take some time to engage in verbal communication and not just smiley faces and silent treatments.

WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE SCARY MOVIE?

Happy Fall!!!! It’s officially September, that means we can now watch all the horror, supernatural and zombie movies and YESSSS even Christmas movies without getting the side eye. One of my favorite horror movies would have to be Scream. As a child, I remember when the scream franchise was in full swing. The ghost face mask was EVERYWHERE!!!! And I was terrified EVERYWHERE!! It was as if the mask was following me. But as I watched it over and over again, I realized why I was afraid. I wasn’t afraid because of the mask (although it was creepy), I was afraid because there was another human being underneath that mask. And I believe that’s why the franchise is so well loved and followed, the idea that another human being with a beating heart can be causing so much death is frightening. But what’s even more frightening is that, you, yourself could become whoever is under that mask. The idea that we as human beings are capable of doing that can say a lot about our society. You start to question, well what made that person snap and start doing? The more scary thought is, what if they didn’t snap? Which is why Scream is one of my favorite movies to watch. Especially Jamie Kennedy’s rules to surviving a horror movie.

Fun fact : Scream was originally titled Scary Movie (which franchise I also love)

Tell Me A Lie

Communication is what fuels conversation. You can have verbal and nonverbal communication. But what about the truth? Can you be truly be honest in a conversation? You meet people and they tell you their lives and what’s going on but have you ever wondered if you told a lie would they believe you? But then of course if you make up an even bigger lie you’d have to keep it up. That in itself is exhausting. So why do people lie? Even to family or friends, people always bend the truth. But if the truth is hard to handle then how can it bend? One of my favorite commercials would have to be when the girl and a guy go on a date and instead of telling a lie about if they’re going to see each other again, they tell the truth and it’s hilarious. It’s hilarious because in our society telling a lie is easier than telling the truth. We can go in and on about why there’s a concept of a lie. Communication, we all want it, yet we all don’t realize that we have the capability to use it. You always hear, communication is key, which is true. But how can I communicate how I am feeling if you can’t receive that message. You don’t have to agree with everything I say, just receive the message. But we’re lazy and we want social media to do that for us. Communication is important because... we need donuts!!!!!